Overview to Visitation

Visitation (also called Parenting Time) is the part of the court order that defines when, how and where the parent without residential responsibility (formerly called the non-custodial parent) may have contact with the child. Visitation is limited by the fact that legal custody belongs to the other parent. This means that your visitation does not give you the authority to conflict with the long-range decisions and policies of the parent with legal custody. For example, if the parent with legal custody has decided to raise the child in the Jewish tradition, the parent with visitation rights may not take the child to be baptized in a Catholic church.

There are no reported cases of a court honoring complete denial of visitation for a parent. Even in cases of abuse, the only reported cases have upheld supervised visitation. Supervised visitation is when the parent is only allowed to visit with the child in the company of another person. This person is usually a friend or relative who the two parents agree will be allowed to act as a chaperon. Supervised visitation often calls for a restriction of visitation to a particular location and time.

Who can be awarded visitation?

Obviously a biological parent can be awarded visitation. Additionally, grandparents (even when the parents weren't married or are not currently divorced) and stepparents may be awarded visitation rights. While there are no reported cases of brothers or sisters being given visitation, a strong argument could be made that it would be in the best interest of the child.

When can visitation be denied?

The court has the power to deny visitation. Normally the court will only stop visitation for a certain time or until a certain task is performed. For example, the court has previously stayed visitation until the parent met their financial obligation. If your spouse denies you court-ordered visitation, you first file for a modification of visitation for a more definite schedule.. Many parents feel they have the right to stop paying child support, but they are wrong. Withholding of child support will only get you in trouble and possibly arrested.

Long distance solutions:

Technology offers some innovative and creative ways for parents separated from their children to connect. Virtual visitation is coming to be recognized by the courts as a potentially important way to supplement in-person visits.

What if you fear for your child's safety or just do not want to see the other parent?

Supervised visitation or monitored visitation protects the safety of the child and centers are available throughout New Hampshire. These programs allow the child to move from one parent to the other at a neutral location. Parents who do not want to see each other can be instructed to drop off and pick up their child at staggered times to avoid any chance meeting, while their child is safe inside the center.